Just me

I think he has gotten the point. He hasn't tried to get in touch with me for a few weeks. Thats a good thing.

I mentioned to my husband what he did. My husbands reaction got me laughing. His ego grew! 'My friend wants my wife! Because I married someone fantastic!' Says this as he is slightly dancing a jig in the kitchen.

I haven't mentioned what happen to the guy's girl-friend. I don't see the point. He might be a dog, but he is one of those people that everyone loves! I don't think many would believe what he did to me. Especially one who is blinded by love. So no point in drama. I'll just hope she moves on and finds someone worth her.

Always. It doesn't fail. The people that use to make me calm and happy are driving me mad.
Always tired, always grumpy, always critical.
Talking about anything doesn't happen either. No matter what I bring up I get little or no response. I really don't know what is going on. If something that is bothering me comes up I get chastised that I am not doing things right about it. Being alone lately seems to be better than being around anyone. I feel fine until someone I love comes close to me.
Their tiredness is making me exhausted. Their grumpy-ness is making me full of anxiety.
This place is small and not much to do. So getting out and meeting new people to get some sort of enjoyable interaction isn't the easiest thing to accomplish. I don't want to be alone all the time. Yet that seems to be my option now-a-days.

I did have a friend, actually a couple that I was having coffee with a few times a week. The guy I have known for several years. Then about a year ago he got a girlfriend. She seemed nice enough. That was nice for a while, but now even they aren't an option anymore. All of a sudden guy decided I was attractive. So he decided to start hitting on me! I've known him for years! What the F!!! Now he is with her, all happy. After a year together they are even looking to buy a place and move in together and NOW he starts hitting on me? First of all we were JUST friends. For YEARS, just friends! I'm married and now he has this girl he 'says' he is head over heels for and he starts hitting on me? What a dog!
I am really starting to think a cave in the middle of nowhere might be a good idea for me.

Only a proxy. How delightful!

Someone who has tried to take away something so meaningful, so precious to me because of her own selfish wants...
How delightful is it to find out that she is only a proxy to the person she loves. Perhaps that makes me mean, or evil?, that I find delight in this news.
I see it as poetic justice. Or maybe Karma.

She's just a proxy!

I want to go home. Yet where I feel at home is not really my home. Never felt like home was home ever till I went to this place. Now I can only visit. Some people I would go to visit aren't in my life anymore so it is harder to go to where I feel at home. Feels weird, but I still want to go home for a visit.

Relax, breath, don't say too much. Light chat, keep secrets inside. no opening up.

My friend's baby... about 2 years old woke up asking for a lollypop.
Her mom gave her a lollypop for breakfast.

What the hell???

Just to clarify... the last post had nothing to do with the situation with my best-friend. I do need to stop calling him that I think.

I have backed away and am still away. He talked to me once since I backed off and of course everything went to hell when she came round.
Why do I get treated like I am the one throwing the fits and causing the problems?
Yup.. best to stay away.  :(

Does it ever feel like the mistakes that were made in the past were the big ones. So nothing will make the future right?

I am not sure if my relationship with him falls into this category. Yet there are a few things that would make me think so. There is this article I found 'Can't let go of a bad Relationship'. Reading some of the comments, I would say we are nothing like them. Yet there are little things that suggest a similar path. I am kind of happy that we weren't of a romantic relationship. Now there I think he is way off in how things go. That would be very bad place to be in. Like in his situation now. He is not in a healthy relationship and things are happening that is on the road to abuse. I tried to talk to him about this today. I ended up hanging up on him, he just started yelling. I called back when I thought he would be calmer.

I don't think he wants to see the truth of what is going on. So I am keeping my distance. Yet, I am getting such a guilty feeling of abandoning him... When it was he ho abandoned our friendship in the first place. Well, I've warned him and I will be there for him if he asks, but I don't think he will. So I am safely away from this time bomb

I did find this article very helpful. So I thought I would share it. There is probably someone out there that would find this very helpful.

(it is confirmed, she is manipulating him)